from shortys desk.

I feel like it is important to start with this because I don't want any man or woman confused about what this relationship is or what it isn't and allow themselves to trust men that they should not.

 Do you want to have a succesful marriage? I know I do, but in order to do that, I have to be willing to let go of control. Now, giving up control is not my strongpoint and when I give up control, I need to feel secure and safe with the person I'm giving up control too. I need to know that the decisions will never harm me, cause me tortue, pain, or not be in my best interest. I need to know that my emotional and physical needs along with my childrens will be considered. This is very important if you are going to choose this lifestyle. You should not choose an incompetent man who has no self-control, or your best interests at heart to lead you because it can lead to an abusive relationship. DD is about a loving relationship where a man loves and cherishes his wife, and the only pain he would cause her is on the place she sits (her bottom) its important that there be trust in this kind of relationship where a woman feels assured if her husband is to get mad, he would only hit her on her behind, never towards her face, or her any other body causing her pain. By letting go of control, you aren't letting go of friends or family, your rights as a person, you are simply saying I'm giving you the authority to make the last and final decision but I'd like my opinion to matter as well. You are saying, I'm giving you permission to hold me accountable for actions that are irresponnsible when I endanger my life or cause some kind of hurt to our family so that all can be forgiven and we can move on with our lives. By giving up control, you are saying you respect and trust him. If this is a lifestyle, you are considering, please consider these things as well. I know many people think dd lifestyle is an abusive lifestyle but that's incorrect. I'm 99 percent sure that most of our husbands would never harm us women, that they would go out of their way to protect us, to provide for us, to take care of us. I view Bj as having the heart of a lion and the courage of a bear. When he wraps both arms around me, and I have my head in his chest, I feel as if nothing could harm me. I am completly safe and secure because he would not let anyyone harm me. When his firm hand strikes my backside, I know that he does it out of love that says, I love you too much to let you destroy yourself. I know at times I can have him wrapped around my finger one moment and he will do anything I want and the next moment I may be over his lap with a firm hand to guide me in the right direction for some incident I did that caused me danger. Plese be careful in choosing a partner and trusting men to lead, although it is a great lifestyle, please do not get confused. A woman was made to be loved, not abused.
Shorty